“Life isn’t what happens to you,” as Yosaif reminds us, “life is what you do with what happens to you!”
Yosaif August is a life coach who focuses on helping people live their lives with purpose, passion, and possibility – and, he specializes in coaching for caregivers.
It’s true, if we depend on just the right things happening to us in order to be happy, then we run a severe risk; as John Lennon said, “Life is what happens while we’re busy making other plans.” If you truly Love anyone, or if you even care, then there’s a significant likelihood that you may be faced with a challenge of having to become a caregiver. There are millions of us caring for a chronically ill spouse or parent, a child with special needs – on either a part time or full time basis.
As Yosaif shares with us, this has its upsides and its downsides: on one hand, life’s deepest feelings of satisfaction and fulfillment come from being able to care unselfishly for another, but on the other hand, simply googling “Caregiver Burnout” will point out the host of physical, mental, emotional, social, and behavioral disasters that can befall someone who is spending a large proportion of their waking hours caring for someone in a dire situation that may even be steadily worsening.
On the other hand, recent studies show that age-matched samples of caregivers actually live longer than those not involved in caregiving. On the other hand . . . there is no other hand: since you are or are likely to become a caregiver, understanding how it can enrich your life, and preventing its potential to burn you out is clearly the wise choice.
Yosaif’s book entitled Coaching for Caregivers – How to Reach Out Before You Burn Out, is a wonderfully written, highly interactive, and mercifully brief guide that can make all the difference in the world for you as a caregiver, or someone you know. In this moving interview, you will learn the tragic situation that attracted Yosaif into this field, how he reached burn-out, and how he committed himself to helping others avoid the same fate. In addition to exploring the contents of his guide, we will talk about such things as how the internet can be invaluable.
We discuss the importance of opening up so that others (friends, family, others with similar problems) can be harnessed for health through the power of the internet and care sites (such as caringbridge.org, lotsahelpinghands.com, and carepages.com.
In today’s world, family members often live at a distance, and sometimes the person whose care you must be responsible for is located hundreds or thousands of miles away – and how the internet can prove the perfect partner.
We discuss exactly what is a caregiver and what are the basic challenges in caregiving, such as the “martyr trance,” the belief system that people sometimes get into that “No one in the world can take care of this person but me, and there’s really no way anyone can help me – a path to isolation and loneliness.”
You’ll find this program an excellent addition to our other programs designed to give you the support you need as a caregiver. Be sure to check out:
- Thriving in the Face of Severe or Fatal Illness – A Conversation with Erica Kosal [Free Podcast]
- Careless Caregivers – How to Avoid the Disasters of Old Age: A Conversation with Rosanna Fay [Free Podcast]
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A Heart-to-Heart Talk to inspire caregivers to value their health and their work followed by a deep relaxation/meditation and guided imagery experience for stress reduction and healing for the caregiver.
This lively and easy to use how-to manual coaches caregivers – family and friends who are providing care to a loved one – to reach out for help before they, themselves, get so depleted that they burn out (and, in turn, need caregivers for themselves!)